My friend wants me to date this guy she knows and she's setting us up. I am going out on a date with him but on the phone something about his voice turned me off. His voice seemed on the feminine side. I don't expect a baritone man but there is definitely such thing as a feminine voice on a guy and it turns me off. Has anyone else experienced this-would you be turned off by a guy with a feminine voice?
I do tend to go a little "omg" over super masculine men and I hate the boyish thing. In a relationship you have to go by the heart and mind over lust but I can't overlook something that actually turns me off.
Meet him, he might be super manly in the flesh, or he might be on the feminine side but a really great guy you will have a great time with. Who knows, but it is one date you aren't marrying him!
I also have a thing about voices. It is mostly accents with me though. I really don't like the local accent (I live in Somerset) and anyone with a broad local accent is a no-no, it just grates on me. Other accents I really love though, Scottish is my favourite (any area lol) Irish, Geordie, Italian, French, and Yorkshire are also good. (I am originally from Yorkshire, so that accent just sounds right to me.) I also cannot go out with anyone who pronounces 'th' as 'f', I would end up wanting to punch them lol.
So voices do matter to me, I suppose because I think talking is really important in a relationship.
Meet him, he might be super manly in the flesh, or he might be on the feminine side but a really great guy you will have a great time with. Who knows, but it is one date you aren't marrying him!
I also have a thing about voices. It is mostly accents with me though. I really don't like the local accent (I live in Somerset) and anyone with a broad local accent is a no-no, it just grates on me. Other accents I really love though, Scottish is my favourite (any area lol) Irish, Geordie, Italian, French, and Yorkshire are also good. (I am originally from Yorkshire, so that accent just sounds right to me.) I also cannot go out with anyone who pronounces 'th' as 'f', I would end up wanting to punch them lol.
So voices do matter to me, I suppose because I think talking is really important in a relationship.
Yes I am going on a date with him. I just like masculine men. I don't expect to get into a relationship with a guy who is my dream man physically but I can't feel sexually attracted to someone too feminine no matter how great he is. I just hope his voice is deeper in person bc if not I cannot ever feel sexually attracted
It is a good thing to know what you do and don't want in a partner as long as your expectations aren't unrealistic. I am the same with short men, I just don't find them attractive, but I would never let this stop me going on a date with a short man, he might be amazing and his lack of height wouldn't matter. In fact my first love (many, many years ago lol) was only 5'5" and he was the most sexy guy ever to me. If I was filling in a dating questionnaire I would tick the 'over 6ft' box though 🙂 This guy was also blond and I definitely prefer dark guys, which just goes to show that these things are irrelevant if you have a connection with someone.
It is a good thing to know what you do and don't want in a partner as long as your expectations aren't unrealistic. I am the same with short men, I just don't find them attractive, but I would never let this stop me going on a date with a short man, he might be amazing and his lack of height wouldn't matter. In fact my first love (many, many years ago lol) was only 5'5" and he was the most sexy guy ever to me. If I was filling in a dating questionnaire I would tick the 'over 6ft' box though 🙂 This guy was also blond and I definitely prefer dark guys, which just goes to show that these things are irrelevant if you have a connection with someone.
That is true that you just need the connection but that's why Internet dating is hard because how many people can you go out with? We all go by out preferences but we can be better with someone else. It becomes more like shopping in a huge store where it's hard to find any good item.
You definitely can't be too picky but a feminine voice is a major turn off that I can't overlook.
I happen to fancy nice, foreign accents in men! 😀 ... but that's of course beside the point, ahem. *whistle*
I actually worked with a foreign bloke for months, then I was transferred to another site and spoke with him on the phone for the first time. I'll tell you, he sounded nowhere NEAR as attractive as he did/was in person.
To be honest, I don't think I sound the same on the phone as I do in person either. I'd say everyone's voices are just a bit tweaked over telecommunication devices... I don't think they've perfected the system yet.
So give the bloke a chance... you may be surprised!
I am SUPER picky about voices. I have no idea why but I am. Some just grate on my nerves and I can't handle it AT ALL. Maybe I sound harsh or crazy but it just drives me insane. I would make it stop if I could but it makes me rage and I can't stand to listen to a voice for long if it bothers me. Sometimes it's the accent and sometimes it's just the pitch.
I'm 27 years old but I sound like a sarcastic 12 year old on the phone so I wouldn't say go with low expectations because of his voice!! My ex had a pretty girly voice as well and I was with him for 7 years, probably would still be with him now if he didn't cheat :p
I used to be a supervisor in a call centre and I remember thinking that one of our company contacts had THE sexiest geordie voice then he came down for a meeting and he looked like a techy nerd, literally no idea how.
Also, and I might be on my own here, I don't think 'sexual chemistry' is something that happens immediately every time either! I met Sam in October one year but I don't actually remember meeting or even knowing him till about January the year after and we worked together full time in a restaurant (pretty close environment) during that period! But when we actually got together it was amazing and I've genuinely never felt like that with ANYONE and we've been together for 4 years now.
For me personally I wouldn't say it's extremely important but in general I am attracted to masculine men, at first a feminine guy could be a turn off but I would probably still at least try to get to know him because he could be a genuinely lovely person which in time could find myself starting to be attracted to them or if not just remain friends.
If a guy heard me on the phone for the first time they would probably think I was 12. My voice sounds so young I hate it especially if I hear myself back on recording I sound like a kid. I remember when I was in my early 20's when I played on xbox live I would turn off my mic to avoid stupid comments about being too young to pay an 18 rated game. My mum is the same on the phone, she sounds really young and she doesn't like it either especially when she has to give her date of birth when ringing the bank or something.