Single girls drifting from girl friends who get married?

I don’t think it’s necessarily anything to do with her being married, people in couples are GENERALLY, and I’m not saying always, harder to tie down to plans because it’s not just their own time they have to share. Say both of them are working the same hours (9-6 plus travelling time would mean they’re likely to not see each other at all till 7pm) but you’d like to see her one evening (till probably 9/10 o clock), they then wouldn’t have seen each other for the most part of a day and some couples avoid doing stuff like that because they LIKE spending time together. And the “met anyone?” comments could be hinting towards “met anyone? We could double date, please say yes!”

Something to remember as well you’ve said that you’re both just busier, unfortunately this does happen as everyone enters the ‘real world’ after school or college and start working/having families, but people look for reasons and it’s usually a reason they don’t like....like you’ve mentioned you dislike her husband (something she is probably aware of as well by the way whether you’ve told her that or no) but this is then why you think there’s a gap there.

I was at uni for 5 years and had THE closest group of girlfriends, about 5 of us. We would always do a night out once a week, a shopping day and usually lunch once or twice, I lived with 3 of them over the course of the 5 years and if we weren’t together we were either in class, at work or texting each other. I now speak to 2 of them, and that’s it. Yes, it’s a shame, we were all really close, but one now works in London, another in Winchester, 2 of them are still in Southampton but one works anti social hours and I now live in Plymouth so we’ve all drifted apart. Unfortunately even in Plymouth I was really close to my eldest sister and since she’s had a boyfriend I will see her once or twice a month compared to 3 times a week and she only lives 5 minutes walk away, but this isn’t because she doesn’t like ME anymore, it’s because she has less free time.

It is normal in a way and it is not because of you. I was in a similar situation like your friend, my ex bf just wouldn't let me meet my friends, and they didn't like him much and always told me he doesn't fit me. In the end a friend started talking to me about my relationship a lot, and it was just then I realised how bad it was, I managed to break free and now I'm starting to grow closer with my friends again.
It's ok for you to tell her you don't like her husband, just do it carefully if you do.
Show her that you're there for her if she needs you. You can try taking with her about her husband, ask if everything is ok for her, if she feels good. Maybe she wants to talk to you but doesn't know if she can.
And if she doesn't want to talk about it it's nothing lost, right.
Hope I could help a little, it's a tricky situation.

Like Deloria said, as you move on in to the "real world" after uni/school, a lot of your time gets eaten up with work and work-related functions.  That means you have to prioritise your personal time, and partners and family will always come first.  Also, people drift apart.  It happens.  I had couple of friends who I was pretty close with--we hung out every couple of weeks or so and we worked together (for me, that's a LOT of interaction for people I'm not married or related to).  We just eventually started seeing each other less and less, texting less and less ... and now, we barely talk unless we bump in to each other.  However, when we do talk, it's like nothing's changed--we just don't see each other as much as we used to.

I don't think it's personal; I don't think it's necessarily her husband, or you, or your friend.  I don't think she's being selfish or ignoring you.  I think that's life.

Also, I think if you're really truly friends, it doesn't matter if you drifted off of each other's radar for years, you'll always be able to pick up where you left off.  My mom is still friends with her best friend from when she was in elementary school.  They grew up across the street from each other, and even when our family moved to the other side of the US, even when life happened to the point where they didn't speak to each other for months at a time, when they do get together it's like nothing has changed.  They will always be there for each other, even when they don't speak for long periods of time.

Additionally, her kids and me and my siblings lost touch with each other when we moved.  We didn't speak for ten years, because life just happened.

My sister was a bridesmaid at her daughter's wedding.  Even though the two of them hadn't spoken in a decade.

I guess what I'm saying is, if you guys have a strong friendship, it'll last through whatever, even if you don't speak to each other for years.

Is it normal for life to take over?  Yes.  Chances are, even if she wasn't married, you guys probably would have drifted apart eventually.  But if you two are as close as you claim, it won't matter.  Friendship is not about the quantity of time you spend with people, it's about the quality of time you spend with them.