I really thought my crush liked me and now he has a girlfriend, how to move on?

Just because he brought a date to one event doesn't mean they're an item.  It means he had a date.

I say be honest with him, and tell him that you are starting to have feelings for him and ask him how he feels about you.  That way, you don't have to torture yourself wondering if he has a girlfriend or if he feels the same way.  It may be his feelings are reciprocated, but there are rules about dating students that you counsel.  It may be he didn't really pick up on your feelings and just acts that way with most people, and assumes you do, too.  Or maybe he's as confused about the whole thing as you are.  The only way you'll find out is by being honest with him.

And once you know his feelings on the situation, you can figure out a game plan from there, whether that involves dating him, accepting the relationship as a friendship or stepping away from it entirely.

Just because he brought a date to one event doesn't mean they're an item.  It means he had a date.

I say be honest with him, and tell him that you are starting to have feelings for him and ask him how he feels about you.  That way, you don't have to torture yourself wondering if he has a girlfriend or if he feels the same way.  It may be his feelings are reciprocated, but there are rules about dating students that you counsel.  It may be he didn't really pick up on your feelings and just acts that way with most people, and assumes you do, too.  Or maybe he's as confused about the whole thing as you are.  The only way you'll find out is by being honest with him.

And once you know his feelings on the situation, you can figure out a game plan from there, whether that involves dating him, accepting the relationship as a friendship or stepping away from it entirely.

I saw him with her once before, months ago. But, back then they didn't look as intimate. Last night, you could definitely tell there is something going on between them, they looked like a real couple 🙁 I wouldn't be surprised if he can't tell I am attracted to him, but there is definitely some chemistry between us. I would never break up a couple, but if they are serious I think I have to avoid him like the plague. He comes up to chat with me all the time and I know he definitely likes me as a person and he even told me we have lots in common. So, I hope he isn't offended if I cold shoulder a bit, but I'm a sensitive person and I can't take the intensive feelings anymore if they won't go anywhere. I never met a guy I had so much in common with before, and I have weird interests, he has the same exact ones and we share the same culture and upbringing too (they don't), etc.

I would just talk to him.about it, ask him.if he wants to meet you for coffee or something and express yourself. I know where Ilive school/uni employees are not aallowed to have relationships with students. So maybe he does have feelings for you but can't persue it because he is a guidance counselor. It sounds like he doesn't act like that with everyone because I'm sure you would have noticed. So there very well may be something there, but if this chick is his girlfriend and he is flirting so much with you, that says something about him/their relationship..what if it was you he was dating for months and flirting with some other girl the whole time. You need to.hear what his intentions are, if you guys would be allowed to date or if he really is serious if he would be willing to get a job elsewhere if its not allowed...or if hes known its not allowed and just has been building this all up for the fun/excitement of it, stringing you along. I really would talk to him about it to figure out what his intentions and motives/feelings are.

I do trust your instinct, however, I'm agreeing with what is said above about his not being able to pursue you due to your current relationship of counsellor/student, which is such a shame.

Just a quick thought to add - perhaps he's found himself a girlfriend (or maybe just a 'date') to try to get his thoughts off you in attempts to move onto what, unfortunately, 'society' would accept more easily.  But if he's trying too hard and doesn't have the same feelings for her as he seems to have for you, that girl won't last!

Still, really a shame.  Those silly grins sound like a sure sign to me, and big smiles and the body language you describe, those things aren't imagination.

If it's any consolation, your relationship of counsellor/student will change one day... :-*

EDIT TO ADD:

As far as what to do now... personally, I would not feel comfortable talking to him about it.  I'd probably prefer to believe that something exists between you two, play it cool and still show subdued interest, I guess would be afraid he'd say something to me that he feels he 'has' to say which may not be the truth and could ruin any future potential, and I would rather think that - if it's meant to be - it will be one day.

But that's probably not the best advice!

Thanks guys! Your responses have been so helpful. I am definitely scared to talk to him. Now I am totally doubting myself but the body language and him telling me we are the same type of person etc seemed so surefire to me. I do have a girly look and I hope he isn't one of those guys who just likes my body and blonde hair but it really seemed different than that to me. His personality is a lot like mine and just what I am looking for. We even have the same cultural religious background and the girl he brought does not share that with him.

Of course at the event he was still talking to other people but interestingly was avoiding me though I intentionally turned my shoulder away from him and then he saw so I gave him an awkward hi he was definitely being distant while she was there.

I just feel so disappointed because we had so much in common and he's like 8 or 9 years older which is just what I want and I've known him a long time and his personality is so much of what I want too. And if he only saw me as a friend and not as a sexually attractive female that would hurt too but based on how he treats me I really don't think so. I know he treated me differently than the others.

I want to act like an ice queen now to avoid my emotions but if he asked me what is wrong I won't know what to say. And I don't want to lose my chances since I graduate in a little over a year. Sigh....

I found myself in a similar situation before - the guy had a girlfriend but showed CLEAR interest in me n every way and I just didn't know what to do about it, because I really liked him, a lot. Our personalities meshed so well, we would finish each other's sentences, the goofy butterfly in the stomach grins and looks across the room, the obvious physical attraction. We worked together and his GF did too so it was extremely difficult and confusing and I felt so torn. It all started off with the 3 of us hanging out pretty often after work, he would tell me about their relationship problems, she would tell me about their problems, etc...We never did anything but I eventually just had to bring it up to him, I just could not stand all the intense emotions anymore. I didn't want to ruin our friendship, but I knew we couldn't realistically keep hanging out and stay just friends and I wasn't going to be 'the other girl'. People we worked with even started noticing it, they would say to her "do you see the way Scott looks at Katie?! or "Standing in between you two I feel like I'm standing in between to magnets!" So yeah, I had to say something. He told me he loved me as a person and obv was interested in me but loved his gf too and he felt completely torn. So that may me what this guy is going through, especially since when his GF was around he avoided you - I'm sure she would have picked up on the attraction and connection and I'm sure he was well aware of that.

If you can't handle the emotions right now and ride it out until you graduate, then I would either talk to him about it and go from there, or stay away from him. If he asks what is wrong, then if it were me I would bring it up. When I did, I was like, "well, it's pretty clear there is something between us and I just don't know what's going on, what is going to come from it, what your intentions are since you have a GF" etc...If he really cares about her and you also, more than just a  friend and is interested in a relationship, then he will have to make a decision at some point, you or her. It's not fair to her or you if he doesn't. These things can take time, and may result in him choosing her, like what happened in my situation and left me absolutely heart broken. So if you do decide to talk to him about it and he is interested in a relationship, just be prepared that it may not go how you want it to, unfortunately.

Out of sheer nosiness and arrogance... how did the story of you two ended? did you just both decide to pass and let it go so as not to hurt his gf or what?

I kind of hate that about guys, that even though they got gfs, some of them still remain goofy/chatty/flirtatious, want girls' attention, want to be this macho guy, and just give you the impression they're single while being in a relationship with someone... like, it's so confusing and mind-fcuking, like stop, can't be playing with someone else's emotions and sh** XD Ugh, had to get it off my chest