Do girls hate on each other for jealousy reasons?

I know how you feel. As silly as it may sound, You don't know what she's going through, you don't know what she's been through, you don't know her. I completely feel for you and I have the same feeling of helplessness when it comes to certain people, that even though I try to make everything work between me and them, I fail.

My piece of advice would be to stay the way you are - which to me is beautiful. Keep on smiling, forgiveness is up-lifting and life-changing. Don't give up your positive attitude, keep believing in people and good luck!

I hope she won't bring you down too much though, but sometimes things are just maybe meant to be a certain way

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"This is completely true. I'm pretty friendly and easygoing and I like to laugh and chat. She's very serious and rigid and way less friendly. I tend to engage people easily because I am chilled out and smile a lot and friendly. Very non aggressive. And I think it drives her crazy."

There's your answer. Though I don't think its that it drives her crazy or she's jealous, but she doesn't know how to relate, just as you can't really relate to her. I doubt she's really being a bitch to you, she's just not like you. She probably has no idea you feel like she's acting this way. She either fancies this bloke or she thinks you can handle stuff and he can't.

Simply put - yes. Women are always hating on each other for the tiniest of reasons. It's almost instinctive - think survival of the fittest; everyone wants to be the Alpha female, to get the Alpha male's attention.
You're not wrong for wanting to be her friend at all, and keep it up with the wanting to forgive her. My advice however is to just keep being you. Consistency is key here. Good luck :]

Yes.  I often get jealous of other girls because they are thinner than me, have better skin or longer hair.  It is just in a girls nature to do that.

I really don't like that assumption that it's in a girls nature to be jealous. It doesn't have to be and many, many of us aren't... I can't help but think that those who are have been conditioned into it. And the idea that men aren't jealous of others is total rubbish.

Sure, I feel envy of others sometimes, but it's pointless being jealous. Any chance we can stop with this silly stereotype now?

I have to say, I'm not the type to get jealous of other girls, and I think the whole "girls are catty" culture is a really negative stereotype that perpetuates modern culture.

It sounds to me like you two are just wired differently.  Maybe you're an extrovert and she's an introvert.  I know I personally struggle with small talk and people see me as serious, but in reality I actually feel things very deeply and get hurt very easily.  I may not show it, and I may not have a desire to engage with everyone in the room, but just because I keep to myself doesn't mean I'm a "hostile bitch".

I think the world would be a hell of a lot better place if we all just gave each other the benefit of the doubt, especially us girls to other women.  Don't automatically assume the worst.  There are different personalities, and it can be very difficult for opposite personalities to understand each other, but that doesn't mean that either one is coming from a negative place about it.

Intemp, you always say things the way I mean to say them, thank you! 😀

This is exactly what I was trying to say with my first post.

It sounds to me like you two are just wired differently.  Maybe you're an extrovert and she's an introvert.  I know I personally struggle with small talk and people see me as serious, but in reality I actually feel things very deeply and get hurt very easily.  I may not show it, and I may not have a desire to engage with everyone in the room, but just because I keep to myself doesn't mean I'm a "hostile bitch".

I'm quite serious, rubbish at small talk and, sometimes, very bubbly people get on my nerves. Yet I can slao be bright, friendly and the bubbly one, so I'm sure I annoy people too.

I've always felt more comfortable around guys because I only had brothers. A lot of times I felt like i didn't know how to get along with other girls because even know I had friends that were girls I was just used to being the only girl at home.

She admits that she isn't as good with people so I think that is a clue that she isn't trying to be a horrible person. Some people just aren't great at being social.

Why wait until your last day? Your comments would probably only make her feel worse/more insecure and make her clam up. Why not just try to have some nice conversations with her and be friendly to see if you can get her to open up.

I do admit I've found myself feeling jealous of other women in the past, but as I get older, I realise why.  I'm competitive by nature and am always trying to improve myself (of course in ways think will make me happy).  But as I get older, I am happier with myself, so being envious is really not an issue.  I think that's what causes jealousy is being less-than-happy with oneself.

Your topic reminded me of a quote I read, which may be applicable:

"You have more harmony [with people] than you have disharmony... . The closer you come to being in harmony with your[self], the more in harmony you are with each other. When you think about other people and what they think of you, do you understand that what they think of you has very little to do with what you are? It has mostly to do with the habits of thought that they have developed. It has more to do with them as thinkers than it does with you as the subject of their thought."

So maybe she has to learn to be more relaxed with herself and just "be herself" more around you than self-conscious or clamming up.  It's really her issue, as others have said, just continue being you!

:-*

She admits that she isn't as good with people so I think that is a clue that she isn't trying to be a horrible person. Some people just aren't great at being social.

Why wait until your last day? Your comments would probably only make her feel worse/more insecure and make her clam up. Why not just try to have some nice conversations with her and be friendly to see if you can get her to open up.

^^^ This.  When people gradually approach me and have conversations about things that I find interesting (or they find interesting) as opposed to small talk, I gradually open up a bit and get more comfortable around them.  I find it very off-putting, however, when people try to force me to engage in trivial conversations; it makes me shut down.  Overly gregarious people drain me and make me want to find a nice quiet corner to reboot in.

If someone came up to me and told me they felt I was aggressive and hostile when all I have done is keep myself to myself, as is my nature, I'd be really upset and hurt.

Keep in mind that you only have to be polite to the people you work with, you don't have to be their best friend.  I sincerely don't think this girl is "hating" on you; I think she's just got a different core personality than you do. 

I also don’t think it’s the case that she just doesn’t like you, if she doesn’t really know you then that could be why, and even if she doesn’t like you, does it matter? Not in a horrible way but not everyone has to like everyone, I work with 15 people in the same room as me and I only like 1 :p
I can very easily sit in a room with men and not feel uncomfortable and can talk till the sun goes down...if they talk to me first but put me in a room with women and I will be that person sat in the corner with a magazine or playing on my phone, even if they've tried talking to me. I find it very difficult to be around girls (Weird considering I’m one of four girls) so to other people it does look like I’m shunning girls in conversation, I’m not I’m just on edge with them until I’ve known them a fair while and something has happened that breaks some sort of barrier there. Just to give you a clue about how awkward and uncomfortable I am around girls...I once started a job where all of the staff (mostly female) thought that I was Polish because I didn’t speak to people, just got on with my job but they made the assumption that I just couldn’t speak English. I can, obviously being British and everything, I just didn’t know them so didn’t get particularly involved in what the girls were talking about.

Intemp, I loved your point of always giving people a benefit of a doubt, instead of jumping into conclusions 🙂 I always try and assume the best in people.