Please help me!

I'm glad you included a picture, and I feel your pain!  I had a similar problem with an ombre-ish pattern and hated the oranges that didn't quite ever change.

In my humble opinion, since your hair has gone through loads of processes lately, I'd say to stay clear of any box dyes completely for a good, long while.  One thing that seemed to help my oranges was the use of semi-permanent blue dyes (instead of purple).  Blue was a bit stronger in covering the orange because those two colours are opposite on the colour wheel.

So, "semi-permanent", something you don't mix but instead apply straight from the bottle, and it won't contain any damaging peroxides.  You'd have to apply it only to the orange areas, and I'd suggest make sure it is well-diluted with a conditioner to prevent it from becoming too blue!  I'd also say blend it in well with the dark above, if not starting right up at the root and working down to the end of the orange areas to make sure the blue-toning doesn't clash with the roots.

I'm wondering, couldn't the stylist have toned the orange a bit?  I'd have thought she'd have been able to do that before you left the salon...

Thanks so much for your reply.  She put toner in all over, but I have no idea what it was designed for.  Wouldn't orange require a different toner than blonde?  IDK...I have lots to learn.
I happen to have a blue Manic Panic.  I bought it after my second appointment when my hair was strawberry.  I didn't end up using it because she said she would fix it for half price.
I may also use a semi-permanant medium ash brown all over as I'm a bit intimidated by blue and we have family pictures next weekend.  Do you think that could work or will it just make more of a mess?  Does semi permamant (with no activators) really wash out in so many shampoos?

Yeah, if you have a lot of yellow in your hair you need a purple toner, for orange you're better off with a blue toner. However, you have to be careful. It could turn blue/green OR a muddy colour as it neutralizes the orange.

The problem with an ash brown is that it can give a greenish tint in the ashy blond parts. Although they say you can wash it out, never count on it. Some colours can be extremely sticky in their last fade.

I'm quite shocked how your hairstylist fixed this honestly. It looks messy, regardless of her warning.

A possibility but I don't know whether you have time for it is perhaps work with several semi's and create nice blends with those, making the orange less harsh.

Thanks for the info. She fixed it last time. I didn't say anything to her this time.

I spoke with my friend who recommended me her hair stylist. It looks like she specializes in fixing messes. I caved and begged her to help me even though I really shouldn't spend the money.  She agreed to see me on Friday, even though she isn't taking on any new clients.

I can't help but reflect on the fact that I'd be hundreds of dollars richer if I had just stuck with my $10 box dye from Wal-Mart.  My hair would also be healthier.

Thanks again for your replies. I'll keep your advice in mind for the future if/when I decide to take on ombre myself!

Trust me, most of us know that feeling. 😉 Good luck friday!